This was the time when I finally started sharing with my close family and friends the fact that I attend pole dance lessons. The reason I decided that it's time to start telling people was that they could see the new bruises appearing on various places on my body and some people were starting to worry a bit. It was 2013, I was a single mom surrounded by a lot of narrow minded people, or some were just modest due to religious views, either way I had to be careful who I tell because I knew that it is very easy for people to turn it into something that it's not. I told my mom & daughter first and bless them, they were both very supportive :) Ok my daughter was 7 at the time so she was just happy because she could sense that I was doing something that I enjoy. I didn't go into too many details I just showed her a couple of photos from the classes. My mom was aware of the fact that pole dance classes were slowly getting popular and she did understand that it is a sport. She even said that she would like to join and give it a try :) This was almost 6 years ago and I was briefly seeing someone at the time so I kinda had to tell him. I showed him this photo that one of the girls from the class took of me. I was so happy that I managed to hold myself in a nice looking pose and I was quite proud with that photo - was my best achievement at the time :) I still look at the photo and I feel pleased with myself :) The guy on the other hand - had absolutely no opinion about it. Nothing positive nothing negative - just nothing... ( I am married now and my husband supports me 100% ) What affected me more back then, was the reaction that a friend of mine had. Not her reaction to me attending the lessons but her reaction to me telling her that I showed the guy I was seeing a photo and he said nothing. To that she said "Well you are not really doing anything complicated so what do you expect him to say". Oh gosh... that really rubbed me the wrong way especially because it was coming from someone who had never even tried fitness pole. It looks easy doesn't it ? WELL IT IS NOT EASY AT ALL ! It can become easier with more practice but at the time - keeping a pose almost felt like mission impossible to me. Later on I found out that my brother doesn't see pole dancing as a sport, while my father does. Throughout the years I had many discussions with people about pole dancing and I had the chance to observe many reactions. I learned the following things:
I understand that if the people that are close to you do not seem to get pole dancing and how important it probably is to you, or make jokes about it - this can be a quite unpleasant.
If there are jealous people around you they may even say negative stuff deliberately to discourage you. It may seem like a big deal at first and people can say harsh stuff but that fades away. And the reason I talked about something from 6 years ago is because I want to let others know that this happens, they may hear silly things too, but it doesn't matter :) I still get slightly annoyed when I think of people and the silly things the have said but it really doesn't bother me anymore. I know that pole dancing is part of my life and I don't need to explain anything to anyone. Thank you for reading my post and I hope you check out the next one.
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